Hope in the dark.
What a month! Since the June newsletter, Santa Barbara has experienced multiple simultaneous wildfires, and more continue to burn. Tragedy in Florida, Turkey, and Bangladesh. Mother England has left the EU, the June primary election has ignited political fervor and the great world still spins.
Of course these things are only some of the things happening globally; we know only that which makes it into our media and communication portals. But then we have our own personal world of issues that we’re dealing with: family, friends, partners in business, partners in relationship, children, no children, summer break, no break, work, no work, health, hope and the pursuit of happiness, just to name a few things! I don’t know about you, but I have felt mentally, physically and spiritually exhausted of late. Yet, I also feel grateful for everything that has helped me grow and to expand in the last month and helped me to cope with such epic times. I reflected back to last year and our July newsletter. I had made a “Post 4th of July request”, it seems as we’re on a hamster wheel and not going anywhere! Déjà vu?
The growth “spurt” I had last month as I mentioned above, was mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, and without it, I may be “depleted” right now, instead of the more benign, “exhausted.” I have come to know the importance of having a team of people that keep me in check. My brain is happier due to a weekly workout with neurofeedback and daily meditation. My body experiences massage each month (at least one per week) and I’ve been exercising and brace yourselves—loving it! I’m giving my spirit a good dose of abundance by sitting in nature and allowing it to have dominion over me. Had I not felt so wonderful and awesome prior to all of these things I would have handled it in a different way, this I know! It’s been surprising for me to see the sheer differences of my new coping mechanism. Yes- I’m exhausted, but not deflated, hopeless or helpless. To quote Rebecca Solnit, cultural historian, social and political activist, spiritual warrior, and author of Hope in the Dark, no matter what difficulties we face, we must never give up, because “Today is also a day of creation.” In fact, I have so much more to give- so much more to offer. I’ve literally seen a huge shift in my work with my clients in that last week! I feel so happy and blessed to share and support you in your journey whether emotional, physical or spiritual. For this July I now request ultimate care of YOU. I know, I sound like a broken record here as I practically say some version of this every few months, but do you see my point? If you are in your strength, power- you attract the support of that strength—you exist perfectly in your “suchness”, the quiet power of faith guiding your strength. When in balance and strength, all start to follow your lead and model themselves to match. Do you remember when you were young who you aligned yourself with and how they kept you grounded, laughing or curious? Be the alliance of hope.
Please use my resource page to find services you need, also come and get some of this amazing-ness I have to share while it’s hot. Share with me what’s alive for you, what’s working and what’s not. Let your voice be heard what you have to say IS important and really, really matters!
Mostly thank you ALL for giving me so much love, joy and reason you are incredible mirrors. And thank you for the abundant feedback on my new website, logo, image. Your positive comments and thoughtful input keep me Hopeful.
Baby got a new pair of shoes!
Well, not literally. But have you ever had an itch to change how you look, or even act, by changing what you wear? Changing our appearance allows us to rewrite our script in some way, even how we behave or act. Some of you witness this daily when you change from your business/work clothes into the clothes you play in. Peeling off that necktie and swapping it out for a favorite old tee and a pair of shorts can unzip stress and set you loose! I once modeled in a fashion show starting out in a business (power) suit and ended in a sexy leopard print high thigh-cut bathing suit (some of you may have seen this image on Facebook). Just wearing this print brought out a part of me that I had never experienced at that point in my life (circa 1996). A very animalistic side of myself emerged, and she was very cat-like. I even recall making the soft, lyrical strides of the big cats. It was fun and mysterious to access a part of myself that had been waiting in the wings for the right moment to appear.
Well, my business needed a new wardrobe, something that would make me more comfortable. Just before the start of this year, I began to realize that the name Chi Nei Tsang no longer suited me and that my logo, website, and my whole online presence no longer fit who I am and what I've become. Since moving here to Santa Barbara- so much has happened that has supported my transformation. My work has expanded, evolved, and deepened along with my client base. But I struggled with moving things along. Try as I might, I couldn't find the right designer (I tried two dozen) to bring forth the desired logo and image into fruition. So I held out on redoing my website and all my social networks that I wanted to have the same theme. It was and still is quite a daunting task to say the least!
Even the name of my practice has gone through several rotations. Some I've omitted, many I had even bought URLs for. For now, I'm going with Transformational Abdominal Massage. My practice is still based on Chi Nei Tsang (CNT) or Chinese Abdominal Massage. Why the change for the name? I learned CNT in 1999 and studied it for several years. While learning CNT I also studied with many other incredible mentors, here and abroad. With time and fueled by my own personal growth, continuing education and client feedback, my work began to expand, evolving into something quite different than CNT. I felt uncomfortable calling my practice CNT, out of respect for my peers and my teachers, and because my work had changed. Although keeping the name CNT, kept me searchable via search engines. For years I’d been waiting for the right name but nothing fit. Still, I could wait no longer- the time was now to break free- to let a specific “brand” go, and have trust and faith that having no logo and no quantifying name for now was also okay! It’s like slipping on a comfy new pair of shoes custom made for me!
Oh my gosh- I can't tell you how amazing it feels to release whatever constraints I had put myself under. No more pressure of things I need/should to talk or write about under the umbrella of CNT concepts, no need to stick to a system other than the one of Transformational Healing. I can now include any and everything. I'm sure I could have written more broadly all along, but it didn't feel like I was properly honoring CNT. I love what I've become with this new name and new branding (even if only temporary), and mostly I love that I get to share more of this ME with you! Enjoy the new look of the website and the new name. If you have insights or find typos etc., please let me know; this is a one-woman show (I did all of it myself with some help on the content) and I need the community's support! If you're on the fence about a new look, new branding or a new way of being (in any way) and you're afraid of what others may think or say, I predict that what results in making the change will feel so good that it will outweigh the struggle. Authenticity and self-permission = a happy self! I support you in your change. Find what makes you happy and go for it!
Over the past eighteen years of my practice, I’ve been immersed in motherhood. Helping women to get pregnant, preparing the womb for pregnancy, post-partum healing abdominal massage as therapy for new mothers, and often, treating the babies and children of mothers who faced health challenges. I want to talk about children who are healing with the power of their mothers (fathers, I know you’re there, too, but today I want to talk about moms). It is impossible not to develop radical empathy for mother and child, for when the child suffers, mother is often feeling it tenfold.
I’ve worked on kids with difficult issues including digestive discomfort, constipation, bed-wetting and anxiety. And there are some persistent and serious health issues such as epileptic seizures, autism and Asperger’s. When I work on kids that are dealing with these issues, I have witnessed beneficial gains in their health, well-being, confidence. For example, with autism and Asperger’s, the treatment improves a sense of self— an autonomy is given which provides the child with an internal awareness of space and self. The external world then becomes safer; they discover a sense of comfort and security. Children experiencing seizures can experience longer periods of relief between seizure episodes. For example, I’ve worked on children experiencing daily seizures who then had them once a week, then every several weeks, then even months between. This is transformative for not only the child, but the entire family!
My approach with children is to show the parents the protocol of touch so that it is not so dependent upon my sessions for the child’s healing process. The power of touch is in all our hands. As I administer a session, I’ll have the parents come in to watch and to work alongside me until they understand it, which usually happens within one 30/50 minute observation/treatment.
And during these treatments, I’ve witnessed something beautiful: a congruency between mother and child, a level of ease and comfort received by the child that allows him or her to go to the most peaceful and restful state—an automatic transmission. It is so rich, so deep, so complete, that I can only pin it to the indescribably mystical and powerful thing that arrived since the moment mother found out there was a life within her—love.
The baby, child, tween, teen and even some young adults that I’ve had the privilege to work on, go into a state of healing slumber that can be hard to pull them out of, for there is a serenity. This deepest healing allows the body to repair and recalibrates the organ functions and other systems. It also rewires the brain for the multitude of functions it performs.
A wonderful article about the bond of mother and child, “Groundbreaking new parenting research shows that a strong emotional attachment between and mother and her baby may help prevent diseases, boot immunity, and enhance a child’s IQ”
Have you seen this beautiful video of a mother and father that loved their stillborn twin back to life? The miracle here, the mother’s intuition to hold the baby. Amazing!
Hope all of you had a most heart-warming Mother’s Day!
Much love, -Jada
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Transformational Abdominal Massage
I'm on a mission to finding my true self. Letting go of the old identity I've created to find the new. I would love to have you there to witness and to share the experience.